The Story Behind the Name
Over and over in my life I have encountered women and teenage girls that struggle with a low sense of worth and toxic shame. Women that never feel like they matter, unless of course they are doing something for somebody else; even if that something is wildly outside of their comfort zone.
I would see them measuring their value by the amount of time and energy spent in pouring into others. The problem, of course, is that if all you ever do is pour yourself out, eventually you will run empty.
I began to adopt this metaphor with my clients.
I would fill a pitcher of water in our session and tell them, “You are this pitcher of water. The water inside is the amount of energy you have to give throughout each day.”
I would then place three cups in front of them.
The first cup symbolizes the takers in your life. Meaning, this is the cup that signifies those people, places, relationships, situations etc. in your life that take. You never receive water back into your pitcher, just a never ending drain that you pour yourself into.
The second cup symbolizes the takers/givers in your life. This is the cup that requires time and energy of yourself, but you also receive something nourishing back. It’s generally an even trade-off. It may not replenish your pitcher of water- but it also won’t leave you empty.
The third cup symbolizes the givers. This is the cup that literally pours into you. It doesn’t ask anything of you; it has no expectation; it’s job is to literally replenish your physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual needs. It’s job is to literally replenish your physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual needs.
I bet it’s not hard to guess which of these three cups is most often neglected.
I once read a quote that asked the timeless question, “Are you a person that sees the glass half empty or half full.” The quote then continues on to say, “People who ask this question are missing the point. The glass is refillable.”
The problem is that we don’t know how to access the givers. Our distorted way of measuring our sense of value and worth has us constantly giving and never feeling like its okay to also receive.
That is my mission behind ReplenishHER, LLC. I want women to begin to know themselves; to understand their boundaries; their emotions; their needs. To no longer measure decisions or value off of how much they pour into the takers or takers/givers in their life; but by beginning to listen to what is going on within themselves.
It’s hard to feel good about yourself when you are running on empty.
But here is my question for you….